Stepping out of university in Nigeria, I envisioned a life full of success and freedom. I imagined a partner by my side soon enough, a stylish apartment, a lucrative job, and liberty from academic wahala. The thought of being free from curfews, endless assignments, and lecturers dictating my every move seemed like a dream come true.

As graduation approached and my project piled up, my anticipation grew. I longed for the day I could toss my graduation cap and get the freedom I had so eagerly anticipated. But the reality has been far from the paradise I envisioned.

Making friends after graduation was unexpectedly difficult. During university, socializing was easy. We were surrounded by peers, and friendships formed naturally. However, once outside those familiar walls, initiating conversations with strangers felt awkward and forced. Dating apps aren’t appealing to me for meeting new people, as they seem too impersonal and everyone just wants to have sex. I found myself struggling to find natural ways to connect with others in this new phase of life.

I struggle with concerns such as whether to pursue further education or risk accumulating debt in this economic climate. I’ve considered studying film, but the fear of financial strain holds me back. Also, everyone knows how African parents feel about the arts. The thought of both, especially in an uncertain economy, makes me question whether it’s worth the risk.

This dilemma reminds me of Lynn from the series “Girlfriends.” Lynn kept getting degrees because she wanted people to take care of her, avoiding the harsh realities of adulthood. While her perpetual student status provided her with a semblance of security, it also highlighted her struggle to find her footing in the real world. Lynn’s journey underscores the importance of adaptability and the dangers of seeking comfort in prolonged academia without addressing underlying fears and insecurities.

Despite these challenges, I realize I’m not alone in this post-graduate struggle. Many of us face a period of uncertainty after graduation with the transition from the structured environment of university to the open-ended nature of adult life. The freedom that once seemed so appealing now feels like a double-edged sword, offering both opportunity and confusion.

Graduation can feel like stepping into the wild unknown. Sure, the structured days of university are behind, but the wide-open possibilities can be as paralyzing as they are exciting. The thrill of graduation quickly gives way to the reality of post-grad life, where the safety net of a university schedule is replaced by the open-ended nature of adulting.

Navigating this new chapter means facing a few big challenges: building a fresh social circle, finding a sense of purpose, and managing financial responsibilities. It can be a lot, but you’re not alone in this. The wise words of 13 year old Robbie Weaver in “Crazy, Stupid, Love” encapsulates this.

Here’s some advice from one graduate to another:

Adaptability is Key: Change is constant. Flexibility, resilience, and an open mind should be your best friends now.

Network or No Work: Keep building connections. Attend events, join groups, and use social media to meet like-minded professionals and mentors.

Never Stop Learning: Your education isn’t over. Read, attend workshops, take courses, and keep growing your skillset.

Real-World Experience Counts: Internships, volunteering, and part-time jobs offer valuable industry insights and help you discover your strengths.

Define Your Own Success: Forget the one-size-fits-all idea of success. Focus on what fulfills you and makes you happy.