A common experience that most heterosexual women seem to be having is a lack in the quality of finger-bangers. Unfortunately, with the decrease in foreplay, a word more loosely defined as sexual activity that arouses sexual partners, there seems to also be a drop in the men who are adept at using their fingers to arouse or bring women to completion. While it is not necessarily every single activity that a man needs to do superbly well, most women seem to greatly appreciate being stimulated by the phalanges attached to the arms. Many people might wonder why this is, in fact some men could find it to be ‘doing extra’. They may feel that anything their fingers could possibly do, their penis could do better. While the calculations could seem straightforward in these conclusions, it is entirely not.

For one thing, fingers can provide a certain touch and response that a penis could not. Stimulating the clitoris with a penis can be fun, but it is much easier to make the person receiving pleasure reach completion when the instigator can clearly see what they are doing, concentrate and reach the desired goal. When using the (erect) penis to elicit said reactions, it is easy for the instigator to get carried away as their own bodies are also being highly stimulated during the action. Using fingers enables both partners to easily control the rhythm, flow and pace of the stimulation. Also, oddly enough, fingers can reach some areas in the vagina that a penis simply cannot. This has nothing to do with size and width as well, although people lacking in that area could definitely benefit from being able to use their other parts of their body in stimulation.

As a result of positioning, depth of the vagina, etc. many people find that fingers are more adept at getting to the core of their need. Many penises are simply not built to adapt to the uniqueness of each woman’s body; they are mostly shaped one way and do not contort in the different ways fingers or silicone-made sex toys can. A partner that easily understands this and wants the other to enjoy themselves properly will accept what needs to be done and work at giving their partner pleasure. 

A man who insists that his penis is the end all be all to sexual exploration will most likely find that several of his partners are left unsatisfied. It is important to understand that all bodies are different and what works for one may likely not work for another. However, if the general consensus by most women is that fingering is a superb activity for them, you’re better off doing that rather than assuming that you know a woman’s body better than she does.