Let us say you are in your first solid romantic relationship. You find yourself severely lacking in the areas of love, knowing that you want to give your partner the satisfaction but not knowing entirely how to go about it. In this article, I will be penning down some sure-fire ways to keep your relationship not only tender, but spicy in the best ways. If you are a person who insists on doubling down on a strictly zero romantic rule, especially when you are aware your partner desires it, then this article is not for you. This article is for people who are actually looking and willing to learn.

First things first, do not expect to be a romantic guru on your first time of trying it out. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging your lack of background, but also wanting to do better for your current partner. Many little things are romantic, so do away with the unusually grand gestures. Try to pay attention to your partner’s likes and dislikes as this would inform you of how to go about gifting them. If they like plants and tend to gardens, buy them a new stalk to add to their greenery. This little gesture is not an expensive gift and is more touching for your partner. You get extra points for the thoughtfulness and also for taking time out to beautify their space.

Remember that romantic gestures do not have to look the same for everybody. However, this does not mean that all methods of traditional romance are automatically null. You may disagree with buying teddy bears and flowers because they seem corny, but if this is what your partner prefers, do it all the same. If a core love language for them is quality time, try to plan out a cute date or activity for the both of you. Paint and sips, games night or other interactive activities are a great way to strengthen your bonds and ensure that you both have something to gush over for a while to come. If you both enjoy physical touch, plan a couple’s massage which involves the both of you also touching each other at some point. Try to invest into other activities, even if they tie into the sexual. Take your partner shopping for lingerie, chocolates or other sensual foods. Taste these foods together and have a feel of the sexy clothing that you may be peeling off one another quite soon.

Approach romance as something to be enjoyed rather than endured and watch your relationship flourish generously. Try to not attach gender-specific roles or strict rules as to what parts of romance you would like to explore. There is nothing more masculine than satisfying your partner, and indeed, nothing is wrong with being deemed feminine. People who ascribe their masculinity or feminity to ludicrous customs or practices will quickly find themselves in miserable connections.